For my purposes in parenting, I am trying to trace the fruit back to the root. What is happening in childhood that sets so many up for this mentality? What is it that we are doing, or not doing, as parents that is allowing or even unknowingly encouraging it? One thing is very clear; overindulged children become entitled adults.
While I am gathering information and preparing to teach a workshop on this topic, let me share with you a few of the interesting points I am discovering;
There are two kinds of overindulgences. 1) Too much access to stuff without mentoring 2) Too much permission, too soon, without mentoring.
Overindulged kids report that they rarely have to clean, organize, use a budget, complete a project, or use proper social skills.
When those overindulged kids become adults (on the outside) they report struggling with knowing how much is enough food, work, sports, sex, drugs, success, love.