This was a good episode! It was chock full of awkward and uncomfortable moments as well as hints of potential disasters to come. Before we jump in, let me correct the spelling of baby Aida's name from last week. I still stand by my sandwich joke.
Lets' talk about Ms. Sarah Braverman, whose plot line I related to the most this week. This poor mom found out about her firstborn's engagement via a group announcement to the whole extended family. Ouch. Where she lost me was when she implied, through a series of well planned to appear casual questions, that Ryan's proposal may not have been thought out or intentional. It felt manipulative. I understand her concerns. Sarah married Seth at a very young age, and look how that turned out. Not only is Amber young, but her soon-to-be son-in-law has had some deep and justified struggles with PTSD, pills, and anger mangement.
I also married young, just barely 19, and because I really wasn't ready, I had a miserable first year or so. Deep down, I have a fear that one of my daughters might make the same mistake. But if, or maybe when, I have concerns about my daughter's engagement, I don't want to slip in the back door and plant seeds of doubt. I want to look her in the eye and with as much compassion and gentleness as I can muster, explain my concerns and why I have them. I just gotta own my own stuff.
In GOOD prenting news, I loved how Crosby opened the door for Jabar to talk about his disappointment and frustrations about the reality of having a colicky baby sister. So many times parents invalidate their kids feelings with statements like "She's just a baby, you have to be nice!" or "Don't talk like that about your sister, don't you love her?" Crosby modeled that it was okay to acknowledge the truth of the situation and that it wasn't very fun to be Jabar these days. (The actor playing Jabar did such a magnificent job showing how a son would light up with that kind of validating attention from a dad. )
What did you think about this week? Should Amber be concerned? Did Crosby earn a merit badge?