Yesterday I turned 39. If your response to this is "Big Whoop" then you are correct. As my husband says, "All I did was not die." But he's a bit of a party pooper so we'll ignore him for this part.
So, in my last attempt to play the "It's my birthday!" card, I have decided to go on a rant, parenting coach style. I feel this will be amusing for all of us, and no, I am not talking about you or your kid.
These are things I say on a frequent basis; to no one, in particular, and to everyone, in particular. This should, at the very least, confirm that I also have some bad attitudes to deal with.
1. People wait til they are in full blown crisis to seek out help. And I am happy to help them in whatever way I can, but if it were up to me, I would love to work more preventatively with families. It involves less tears to build something strong in the first place than try to rebuild after damage has been done.
2. Movie ratings are not a sufficient deciding factor people! Did you know the difference between a PG13 and R rating is 1 F word? To say nothing of the content, good or bad. There are so many great apps and resources out there, just use them!! www.commonsensemedia.org
3. Stop the homeschool/public school/private school wars. There is good and bad in all camps. Please stop deciding what the best educational option is for other families. Do not spread fear and anxiety and many times unfounded gossip about the the educational form you decided against. Instead encourage those around you to inform themselves and then prayerfully consider what is best for their own child, in that particular season. Then either support them or pipe down.
4. Stop using social media to hate on social media. This is truly confounding to me. Listen parent, if being on Facebook or Pinterest causes your own insecurities about your parenting to rise up to the surface, you have other options. First, you can recognize this in your own heart, and decide to just get off. If you are continually tempted into comparison, then it's not a great idea to be putting others' lives in front if your face everyday. If seeing 22 DIY toddler projects makes you feel like less of a mom, stop looking at them! You are the steward of your own heart, mind, and life. Accusing others of being fake or boastful or mommy-bots is just playground name calling and says far more about you than you might realize.
5. Last one, I promise! Let's shift our focus off of what the government is or isn't doing, what the schools are or are not doing, and what the church is or is not doing for your child. Yes, be informed! Attend meetings, vote, volunteer! But realize that when it comes to the most powerful influencer on your child, nothing comes close to what happens in your home. And that is just the way God designed and intended it! The bonds of family are capable of great help and harm. And when it comes to the responsibility of the physical, mental, emotional and spiritual development of our children, the buck stops with with parents. Those organizations can be a great support system if utilized wisely, but understand that what happens within the walls of home will have a far bigger impact our your children's future than anything else. See why I do what I do?
Okay, relax, I'm done. That was my last birthday indulgence (well except for what happens at The Melting Pot tonight with my friends) and we will now return to our regularly scheduled encouragement, practical help, and empowering tools!
39 and Loving It