Don't grow a wishbone, daughter,
where your backbone ought to be.
When I was told to do something, I had a choice. I could say YES and obey, or I could say NO and receive the consequence for disobedience. But one thing that was never said to me was, "You are not allowed to say NO." This may seem like an issue of semantics, but it has pretty far reaching implications.
My mother realized that one day, someone bigger and older than me, would ask me if I wanted a drink. I would be asked if I wanted to make out, or smoke, or use drugs, or cheat on a test, or steal a candy bar. The last thing my mom wanted running through my head at that moment was, "I am not allowed to say NO." Sometimes, NO is absolutely the best possible answer.
Our daughters, and our sons, need a voice. They need to enter adulthood with the courage to speak out their convictions, the same convictions we have worked so hard to encourage and instill.
What does this quote speak to you? How are you working to empower your kids?